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My children are seven years apart. Not through any sort of planning, fiscal or otherwise, but just how it turned out.

But somehow they are both applying to colleges this year--this month. Son took some time off to do other things for a while-- and before we knew it it had become 5 years. I am ok with that. We have enjoyed his company, and he is certainly more ready to make use of his schooling than someone sub-20.

Daughter is 17. She has a class at school where she is graded on her progress and organization in applying to colleges. she has to make her application through the school, on their timetable, or she will fail the class. I am sure that this is a good motivator for many kids-- it might have even helped me at that age. But in her case it has mostly served to crank up her stress.

But this month has been terribly stressful. Even through the state system we have to pay a fee for each application sent. And there are so many questions, ranging from puzzling to intrusive to insulting. we were on the beach today walking Sabir, daughter called from school she had 5 minutes before the application timed her out and she needed to know our net worth, the date of our marriage and her father's FAFSA pin number.Mike ended up sprinting back from the beach to get that last one. He was not in time. But she can do it all again on Tuesday. (Monday is a school holiday-- MLK day.)And son finished his today. Now all he has to do is get his recommendations and his test scores. He has done and sent the essay already. Good essay I think. He has made no attempt to downplay the time he has spent away from school. He has written instead about things he did in the meantime-- Occupy Wallsteet, EMT school, computer programming, his recent binge reading of Wittgenstein. I think he will be interesting as a candidate. I hope so anyway.

So it will soon be over, like a bitter horse drench.

Sabir is a great stress reliever. He is a pure delight. What a sweet funny clever little dog he is... today we took him to the horseshoe crab beach for the first time. No crabs visible today. I am looking forward to seeing them back this spring though. He had no interest in swimming, or in gulls, and only passing interest in a muskrat we saw. There does not seem to be any bird dog, or hunting dog in there. But he does have some unusual habits. If I am walking with someone else and lag behind at all, he comes and nips my heels to make me close up with them. If he is walking with a small group, and he sees a bigger group he wants to defect, or better still join the groups together. The other residents of my neighbourhood are not terribly cooperative with this. He has no aggression in him at all. But he wants to push all the people into bunches with cohesive edges.

Sabir has a collection of dog toys now, some came home with him, some things he liked around the house that we have ceded to him. (His favourite is a pair of husbands old crocs.) He keeps all the toys on his dog blanket, at the foot of the couch. If you hand him something he takes it there to play with. He is tidy, which is really weird in a dog.

House-training is going well. We are down to about one pee accident a day, and those are usually our fault for not moving fast enough. Not bad for having had him only 2 weeks, and living four stories up. he wants to please, and he is not into the willful stage that will come later



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Jan. 16th, 2016 10:07 am (UTC)
My first siting of SAbir for myself - as it were- having been too long absent from these pages - he is beautiful and just the right addition to your home and family :)I Did have a siting courtesy of the dear and much more diligent amaraal over New Year time but I am glad to catch up with him here

FOund what you were saying about C and A and their respective college applications fascinating if a bit head-shaking at times
know your net worth?!!!! for a college place ...
your two kids have had the inestimable worth of parents who have/are bringing them space and opportunity to grow into who they should be
no money buys that in any age or state
Jan. 16th, 2016 09:11 pm (UTC)
Thank you for saying such an kind thing.

I have been dreading the college process since day one. But I think they are both now truly ready. I certainly was not, not at 17 at least. By 24 I was married with a baby due and a husband at sea. I thought it was too late to get educated. (And I think now I can see SP and EP smiling with kind amusement...)

I think Mike is a good example for the kids. He is proof that you can go back to school anytime, and sit down with the schoolbooks and damn well learn something new and hard.

And perhaps I am proof to them that you can at least learn on your own, idk.

As for college, I have no idea why they make it so hard to get in.
Jan. 17th, 2016 09:17 am (UTC)
a true thing !

Never too late to learn and study - in college or out I suspect.But it will be exciting to see what experiences they both have and how they grow with them

I wasn't really ready at 18 in some ways and lucky that I had a second go at 24 as well but I am as in awe of what I learn here and elsewhere in the virtual world

if anyone had told me that I would publish a book not of poetry or work related stuff but about 17 young men at sea and the irascible but loving man who was father to all of them

I think Ned knew his wife was the better educated in terms of formal education - such as it was for women then.learning was the one thing he comes over - occasionally - as being aware he had not much of in a formal sense and I wish we had a letter telling how he felt when Oxford granted him an honorary Doctorate - but so far there is not one.I am very pleased with my old university that they did :)
and bet he looked great in the outfit too ...
Jan. 16th, 2016 12:52 pm (UTC)
Happy for you and yours and the newest family member, Sabir. Looks (and sounds) like a great dog!
Also, happy belated Birthday!
Eva's Birthday is the 17th, but we went out last night for it, so I guess we celebrated hers on yours!
Jan. 16th, 2016 12:55 pm (UTC)
Just re-read the portion of your post about Sabir trying to move folks into larger groups. Maybe some shepherd of some kind in him?
Jan. 16th, 2016 09:01 pm (UTC)
I think so, or some sort of collie maybe. We may get a dog DNA test someday.
Jan. 17th, 2016 08:46 am (UTC)
When I was young we had a collie/shepherd mix and lived in a small rural area in Idaho. She ran loose and would often try to herd the cattle in nearby pastures. She was never trained at it, just seemed to be by instinct.
Jan. 18th, 2016 04:53 am (UTC)
It is just amazing how they can do that.
Jan. 17th, 2016 03:48 pm (UTC)
Best of luck with C&A for their college applications. It all sounds very stressful, particularly for C, but I hope it'll be worth it in the long run. I think A was very wise to wait, and you were very understanding not to push him. It sounds like he'll make a very interesting and interested student.

I love that picture of Sabir and Mike, man and dog in perfect harmony! :)
Jan. 18th, 2016 04:52 am (UTC)
Alexander said that it made Mike look like a statue of Lenin!
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