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In ER tonight finding out if my kidney is misbehaving. Seems so to me, but tests will tell.

Daughters visit to her doctor was as unpleasant as could possibly be.Neurologist criticized daughters hair, clothes. She asked directly about daughters sexual history right in front of me. In our case it was fine,but usually should not be.done that way. She rebuked daughter for her school performance and changing from the child she had once been. Not fair to say to a teen 'why are you not the cute biddable creature you were at age 12?'

I really do not do medical stuff as a hobby. I would rather have spent my day some other way. Any other way.

Thinking fondly of you all. Sleep well internet people.



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Jun. 21st, 2014 12:56 am (UTC)
Oh dear.

Hope it is nothing serious, and even if it is so, is something readily treatable.
Jun. 21st, 2014 01:00 am (UTC)
Oh I'm so mad! What on earth do ANY of those things have to do with getting her the right medication?

Seriously consider a new doctor, now that presumably you have a prescription and time to find one. I would be so distrustful of that person's ability to really listen to me as a person and patient.

And feel better yourself! *hugs*
Jun. 21st, 2014 01:04 am (UTC)
Dang, that's a harsh doctor. Did the child rob a liquor store and hijack the subway?
Jun. 21st, 2014 01:21 am (UTC)
Some doctors know their 'subject' well, but have miserable people skills. You'll need to weigh whether this doctor's skills are exceptional enough to continue with. At the least, should you decide to continue with this doctor, you should send a calmly written and well thought out note and tell her your feelings. If she works in a clinic or group practice or hospital, you should also make your grievance known there.

Some years ago, my FORMER physician saw me in his office for a badly infested toe. I was quite pregnant with baby #7 at the time. The first words out of his mouth were "When are you going to have your tubes tied??" I responded with "What has that got to do with my infected toe??" After completing the appointment, I went straight to the head of the facility and complained about this uncalled for and insulting remark. He retired shortly after.

I will keep you in my prayers, and hope your medical problems are minor and quickly fixed!! Thanks for your good wishes!
Jun. 21st, 2014 05:28 am (UTC)
who the hell does that neurologist think she is? She is there to deal with your daughter's epilepsy not judge her. And last I heard epilepsy is not an STD so why does she need to know about her sex life? I'd lodge a complaint and find a new doctor.

I hope you got better people to deal with at ER and hope the kidney is not misbehaving
Jun. 21st, 2014 09:57 am (UTC)
Good luck with the tests.
Jun. 21st, 2014 10:18 am (UTC)
Hope the tests go well!
Jun. 21st, 2014 11:17 am (UTC)
Hope all manner of things will be well.
Jun. 21st, 2014 11:47 am (UTC)
Poor you, as if you haven't had enough medical shenanigans this year already. Hope your kidneys are okay, and if they're not, you're able to treat any nastiness quickly.

You and C must both be furious with the doctor. It sounds like she's completely lost the plot and has absolutely no understanding of or empathy with teenagers. C would have been quite with her rights to tell her where to get off! I know changing doctors is likely to be an almighty hassle but it sounds like it would be worth finding a more doctor who has better understanding of how a condition like this affects teenagers, not just young children.

*hugs and all good wishes and kind thoughts to you both*
Jun. 21st, 2014 11:56 am (UTC)
I hope it won't be serious.
Jun. 21st, 2014 04:48 pm (UTC)
Ouch! A double whammy! Kidneys and a rude doctor. Hope the kidney problem is resolved with a minimum of fuss and bother. I agree with other commenters that daughter should find a new neurologist. One's doctor/specialist should be on your side and not critical of every little aspect of your (daughter's) life.
Jun. 22nd, 2014 07:34 am (UTC)
Hoping kidney is found to be behaving or can be encouraged to be and lots of thoughts and love from here

I already said what I think about a new neurologist and I think it is even more important after your recent experience.C does not need or deserve to be treated that way at all].Nor do you - you are both intelligent and capable women and a loving mother and daughter to boot and she is well oot of order.
I was for two years a member of a voluntary group in which neuro patients( including some with seizures ) were asked to work with young doctors who were hoping to specialise in neurology and we assessed their skills in listening and memorising and feedingback to the patient what they heard to check and also their engaging in a cooperative relationship...

It does matter - however good this womans knowledgle of anti seizure medication it goes far beyond that to be a good neurologist. Docile children and grateful parents - what a boost to a docotrs ego - she is her own witness to her own problem.
As she should remember First do no harm.
Jun. 22nd, 2014 07:06 pm (UTC)
I agree with what the rest have said about the doctor. I hope you get your own medical problem sorted out quickly - just when things were starting to seem a bit better...
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