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Two News Articles

Read these one after another, before I had sip one of my tea...



http://wncn.com/2016/10/01/kentucky-day-care-investigated-for-smack-for-a-snack-game/

http://www.cnn.com/2016/09/30/health/syrian-white-helmet-defense-volunteer-breaks-down-trnd/



What are the things we value on this planet? Respect? Kindness? Human Dignity? How do we care for the smallest of humans? Who cares, and who does not? It is not just big things like the bombing of cities. It is about paying such an inexcusable wage to the vulnerable that they have to leave their kids somewhere worrisome and hope for the best. It is about paying a crap wage to the people who watch and protect our children. This is what happens when some children, or children in some cities, or children of some colors, are worth less than others.

The face of that man in the ambulance moves me. He is so young himself. He reminds me of my son, of my daughter's friends. Ya Allah, indeed.

I like to think that I would dig for hours in broken cement to reach a strangers baby. I hope I would. But I know in myself the times when I have failed to speak up against unkindness, or injustice. I have a coward's mouth-- less so as I get older, perhaps. But I should be getting older faster, if I am to be any use.

I read things like this, and I think: here am I in my house, with my computer and my tea-cup. And I feel a scalding shame for every complaint I have ever made. I have not had to leave my kids somewhere unsafe, not ever. And still the world has hurt them at various times. The world hurts us all.

When that young white hat is finally able to wash, and go home, what will he go to? Does he have somewhere safe to go? Will he get a cup of tea? (Probably that at least.) Will someone listen to him as he tells of the baby so small in his arms? Will he say 'somebody had to do it, anyone would have done it?' Will he cry then, or just stare into space? Will the listener understand?

What about the Kentucky day care worker? What so they go home to? Will they lie awake at night ashamed of what they have done? Will they be able to trace the path of their own life to such ugliness? They should have had a different job, certainly.

Sorry to hit you all with such heavy stuff. I think we all need a fuzzy kitten intervention.

Comments

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lemurling
Oct. 1st, 2016 03:50 pm (UTC)
It's heart-breaking, both stories. But important to remember.

I think the hardest part of becoming an adult has been the growing understanding of just how flawed our country is, and how we fail so many people in so many ways. America isn't what I learned about in school, and it never was. And while we make progress in some places, in others we slip and fall further.

I've lucked into being able to give my child a more monetarily rich and stable life than I had, but I can't really say I've been able to give her a better life. There are ways that families in particular are uniquely being failed by America in ways that other countries are not.

We can see the horror of other places, and want our country to help them better, and also see the failures here close, and want our government to do more, and also still feel the difficulties of ordinary parenthood, which -is- hard, and worth some complaints along the way, even in the most beneficial circumstances. Perspective is good, but invalidating our our aches and petty hardships doesn't make the pain and suffering of others less.
We can have compassion for ourselves and for others at the same time.

So here:
http://www.emergencykitten.com/
eglantine_br
Oct. 3rd, 2016 12:28 am (UTC)

Of course, you are right. The country is not what we were told in Weekly Reader, but it is better in many ways than it was when i was young.


I have not been able to give my kids the same things i had, but other good things certainly.


These stories came into my feed, next to each other. I found it strangely moving.


It is good to hear from you. I have been going through a lot of the old stories lately. What fun we all had!


Your little girl must be quite big now. I am sure you are very busy too. If you ever find yourself in Brooklyn again i would love to meet up.

vespican
Oct. 1st, 2016 05:22 pm (UTC)
The child care incident is, I believe, the result of a conflict between government oversight and or the lack thereof. We've pushed for more control, more regulation of child care establishments, driving out those run by truly caring adults... simply because they are not licensed, and have in many ways forced parents to take children to places ran as a business and not as safe and nurturing second home. And with the way many lives go these days, it is not always possible for Grandma, or Aunt, or older brother or sister to watch one's kids. No, I don't have an answer, but like many, I do have questions and wonder at just what is going on in the world and in this country.
Dave
eglantine_br
Oct. 3rd, 2016 12:34 am (UTC)

It is hard to know if the old days were safer. Certainly kids had more freedom. I was often out the door in the morning to roam and turn up home for meals.


But i had a mother at home if i needed her. Different times, not ideal but with different expectations from kids, parents, and society.

vespican
Oct. 2nd, 2016 03:56 am (UTC)

I think thise who are always cutting down those who follow the Muslim faith should note this man's compassion
Dave

eglantine_br
Oct. 3rd, 2016 12:34 am (UTC)

Yes absolutely.

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