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I have been away, right here

We have had the incremntal changes that make the texture of life feel a little abasive. Mike has started school again, he now has a daily 2 hour commutte to the the Bronx. He is at Manhattan College, which is not even in Manhattan! All is well with his classes, but we are having paper probklems.

When you leave the US military you get a form called DD214. It  tells a number of things about your discharge including final status which can be honorable, general, or dishonorable.  My guy was honorable all the way. Gold sleeve and all. But the clerk who typed up the form 10 years ago made a keystroke error, instead of writing HONORABLE she wrote NONORABLE. Nobody noticed for 10 years, until now. And some dumbass over at the school is so freaked out by this that they are refusing to submit his paperwork. So we are not getting our GI BILL, which includes our living allowance, which we use to live on. NONORABLE is not even a word. Everyone agrees that it is silly, everyone says there is nothing they can do.

We are doing the only thing we can which is to submit a form  asking for review and correction. This can take months. Also the form has a section saying 'do not call us until 90 days have passed, any contact with our office before that time will result in further delay.

I am someone who hates the proffering of documents as it is. I hate the idea of forms you fill out so other people can accept or reject the things you want to do. Obviously that is how the world goes, but it makes my skin crawl.( Such a bad idea to stick someone behind a desk, (covered from the waist down, seperated from vulnerable sitting or standing you, and sometimes even up on a platform while you stand lower, the dmv and pharmacy do that.) Gives the desk person a bad kind of power.

And Mike is so good, so careful to identify and follow the rules, so nervous of doing the wrong thing. This is what made the Navy so perfect for him, I am much more willing to try to make myself a special case. It is irritating.

Claire is starting school next week. I think she is looking forward to it. She is going to have an internship doing the same mural painting as this summer. And we have to think abot colleges.... More paperwork!

It is still hot here, but I can feel the fall coming. This will pass, and things will improve.   I  am ok, if nervous.  My writing has been scant. I have been reading a lot. Got to go-- time to drive to Bronx. Miss you all.

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ba1126
Sep. 4th, 2015 04:32 pm (UTC)
Maybe a call to your senator? Some 'higher up' he knows in the military? I'll say a prayer that this gets fixed.
lemurling
Sep. 4th, 2015 08:59 pm (UTC)
*hugs* That sounds so stressful. I asked my Navy friend about any possible shortcuts and he grumbled about his birthdate being wrong on a form and 16 years later it's still wrong, despite numerous attempt. He said "the systems is designed to prevent people skirting it" and that there are probably only a handful of people in the country that fix these things, and knowing one is probably the only shortcut. He's a pretty savvy guy with bureaucracy, so I'm guessing he's right. He did say that you should get your back pay once things do sort out though.

In the meantime, their suggestions: Contact whichever Fleet & Family Services is the most local to you. Even though he's retired, they ought to be able to refer you to people who can help, if there is anyone, and they have bridge loans available, at 0%, if the circumstances warrant it. If you have USAA as your bank or the Navy Credit Union, they might be able to help too, as far as keeping you going financially until things resolve.

*big hugs*
eglantine_br
Sep. 5th, 2015 01:31 am (UTC)
We do have Navy Fed and USAA, husband may need to get a student loan of some sort. The correction form is geared more to changing actual status than changing stupid typos so maybe someone will see it and just deal with it quickly. I can hope.

I feel real disproportionate outrage. He gave them 20 years, our whole family did.

So much harder to solve once you are out, and it has to be him. Neither the school nor the Navy will talk to me.

On a happier note, it is good to hear from you! How are you? I was plain delighted to see your lemur on my feed.


lemurling
Sep. 5th, 2015 01:48 am (UTC)
I'm good! Nenya is four! It seems impossible. I should post a pic sometime. I read LJ every day, so I'm here, just silent.

So busy. Work especially, I'm in that mid-career time where if I apply myself, I will do so much better in the end than just coasting along. So it eats a lot of my energy. But I have wrangled a trip to a conference in NYC next year, I'm pretty sure, as part of the 'moving up' deal, so I'm hopeful I can snag an extra day or two and see friends too.

vespican
Sep. 4th, 2015 10:41 pm (UTC)
Hmmm! Maybe I should check my DD 214 for any errors. With my time of service, I'm sorry to say I haven't any advice to pass along.
Dave
eglantine_br
Sep. 5th, 2015 01:19 am (UTC)
Might be better not to look, as long as things are going well. I wish we had never looked.
anteros_lmc
Sep. 4th, 2015 10:58 pm (UTC)
That sounds like a royal pain in the ass. I sincerely hope sense prevails and you get it sorted out sooner than later. You're so right about the bureaucratic power imbalance and the ridiculous circumstances that result from simple errors. Makes me think of Terry Gilliam's Brazil. Archie is enraged on your behalf.
eglantine_br
Sep. 5th, 2015 01:14 am (UTC)
Archie is a comfort in time of trouble. (So are you.)

I wish he could come roaring in to defend our family honor.

Nonorable--- as if!

Edited at 2015-09-05 01:33 am (UTC)
khiemtran
Sep. 5th, 2015 12:56 am (UTC)
Wow, that sounds very kafkaesque. I hope it gets cleared up soon...
eglantine_br
Sep. 5th, 2015 01:33 am (UTC)
Me too. Really scary.
nodbear
Sep. 5th, 2015 01:51 pm (UTC)
At one and the same time unbelievable ( as in appalling) and all too believable - bureaucracy is the same everywhere.
Archie would be a good defender - and advocate -he and all the Indefatigables =since they had a great example to follow, because Ned on the trail of justice for his boys was like a very persistent lion and never gave up if he thought a cause was just. He is outraged by it all and is harrumphing on your part .

Skype tomorrow at all btw? Will email you.
eglantine_br
Sep. 5th, 2015 05:20 pm (UTC)
Yes. Skype tomorrow would be perfect.
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